The short answer: through people who know you, through places you would go anyway, and through someone whose job is to make introductions. Roughly in that order of effectiveness.
The longer answer is worth having, because the reason apps disappoint in Jewish dating is specific, and understanding it tells you what to do instead.
Why apps underperform here
Dating apps are optimised to show you more people. For most of dating, more is better. For Jewish dating it often is not, for three reasons.
First, the pool outside a handful of cities is genuinely small. Set a filter to Jewish, within thirty miles, in your age range, dating for marriage, and in many places you have exhausted it in a fortnight.
Second, the things that determine Jewish compatibility are not on a profile. “Traditional” on an app tells you nothing about whether someone drives on Shabbat, expects a kosher kitchen, plans to send children to day school, or is culturally attached with no practice at all. You find out on date three, or you find out in year two.
Third, apps select for the ability to photograph and text well. Those are skills. They are uncorrelated with being a good spouse, and they are actively anti-correlated with some traits that matter enormously.
What actually works, in order
1. Telling people specifically
The highest-yield thing available to most people, and most people do it wrong. “Let me know if you meet anyone” produces nothing, because it gives the other person no way to act.
Specific works: I am looking to get married. I am open on observance but I want a Jewish home with Friday nights in it. I would rather meet someone through a person than through an app. If anyone comes to mind, I would genuinely like to hear about it.
That is an awkward sentence to say. It is also the one that gets results, because it gives someone a brief rather than a vague obligation.
2. Showing up somewhere repeatedly
Repetition matters more than the venue. A young professionals group, a class, a volunteer commitment, a minyan, a Shabbat table that rotates hosts. What makes these work is not that singles attend; it is that you become a known quantity to people who then think of you when they meet someone.
The failure mode is going once, finding nobody, and concluding it does not work. The value accrues in month four.
3. Matchmaking
Traditionally a normal part of Jewish communal life and still is in more observant communities. What has changed is that it is now available to people well outside those communities, without any expectation of a particular level of observance.
What a matchmaker adds is screening and a second opinion. Someone has read both sides, knows things a profile does not carry, and has a stake in it being a sensible introduction rather than a numbers game. It is the formal version of what a well-connected aunt does informally.
This is what JLov’s private matchmaking is — no public profile, no browsing, and every potential introduction read by a person before anyone is contacted.
4. Travelling for it
Unpopular and effective. If you are in a small community and serious about marrying, the pool is where the pool is. People who treat a few trips a year to a larger Jewish city as a normal cost of the project do considerably better than people who wait for their town to improve.
5. Weddings, shivas, holidays
Community events put you in front of people across generations, which is where introductions come from. The person who thinks of you is more often a friend’s mother than a friend.
The part nobody wants to hear
Meeting people is usually not the actual bottleneck.
A significant number of people who believe they cannot meet anyone have in fact met plenty and ruled them out fast, often on criteria they have never examined. If you have had several first dates in the last year and no second ones, the constraint is not supply.
That is worth checking honestly before investing heavily in more volume. The Dating Priorities tool forces you to narrow what you are actually screening for from twelve traits to three, and it is common for people to discover their stated priorities and their actual behaviour disagree.