No. And the assumption that you would is worth examining, because it imports a way of thinking about religion that does not fit Judaism especially well.
Belief is not the load-bearing element
In a great deal of Western thinking, a religion is primarily a set of beliefs, and practice follows from belief. On that model, wanting a Jewish marriage without religious conviction looks incoherent.
Judaism has generally worked the other way around. It is a people with a covenant, a law, a history and a set of practices, into which one is born or joins. Belief matters, and Jewish thought has argued about it for two thousand years — but belonging has never been contingent on getting the theology right. A Jew who believes nothing is still a Jew, and no major Jewish authority disputes that.
Which means wanting a Jewish marriage can rest on peoplehood rather than faith without any inconsistency at all.
What people are usually wanting
When it is unpacked, it tends to be some combination of:
- Continuity — not being where it stops
- Shared reference — not having to explain yourself
- A home with a recognisable shape — even a minimal one
- Children who know what they are
- Family peace — which is a real motive and worth naming honestly
- A wedding that means something — frequently strong even in people with no other practice
None of that requires belief in anything. Several of those items are arguably about history and family more than about religion at all.
What is a religious question
Being precise: the validity of a Jewish marriage — what makes a wedding a Jewish wedding, who may officiate, what is required — is a halachic matter, and the movements differ on parts of it. Wanting one is a personal matter. Having one done in a way a particular community will recognise is a question for a rabbi in that community.
People who are not religious sometimes discover this late: that they wanted a Jewish wedding without having asked what that requires or which community they want it to be recognised by. Worth asking early, especially if either family has views.
Where this gets awkward
The reasonable version of the challenge is not “you are a hypocrite”. It is: if this matters enough to determine who you marry, does it matter enough to appear anywhere else?
Some people answer no, honestly and comfortably. That is coherent.
But a fair number, asked plainly, find they would like it to appear somewhere and it currently does not. That is worth knowing before you marry, because it changes what you should be looking for — and because it is much easier to build a home with someone who wants the same direction than to try to add it later.
For dating
The practical consequence is the same as everywhere else on this site: describe the home rather than the label.
“I want a Jewish marriage” is a requirement. It is not a description, and two people who both say it can want entirely different lives. What it needs is the detail — what Friday night is, what the kitchen is, what the children are taught, whether there is a community.
JLov’s matchmaking intake is built around this. It never asks anyone to rate how religious they are. It asks what they actually do, what they want their home to be, and how much difference from a partner they could live with — because those three answers predict compatibility and a religiosity score does not.